A lot of people seem to view marriage as a legal thing in terms of finance, or just the good christian/x religion way. Probably why so many people have steadfast hatred of marriage or keen disliking. I feel immensely sorry for anybody who signs pre-marital contracts to ensure that their possesions or money isn’t grabbed in the future.
None of my family members were married with the exception of my sister and her husband, much later in my life and I wasn’t around for it. I don’t know exactly where I got my sense of thought about marriage. Marriage to me isn’t about the ceremony, or the financial benefits, or the cultural implications. I think it’s one thing to live with somebody and agree to stay with them. It is another entirely to agree to marry them.
The level of commitment to me extends beyond what we understand as mortal life. They say until “death do you part,” but I’m inclined to disagree. If I married somebody, I’d be making a commitment to them that extended beyond just the mortal shell. If there were ever any kind of afterlife, reincarnation, anything at all, I’d find them again and stay true to being with them.
It’s on odd one, for certain. I’ve never been religious, and I myself am greatly skeptical of anybody spirtual proclaiming things. But I believe that in some capacity there is far more to us than just synapses and shells of bone and skin. Is it a soul? Maybe not. Maybe it’s just a deeper level of existence we don’t have the capacity to understand. What does a human mind look like in twelve dimensions? The 4th dimension, time, could be a plane of direction like the other three that we cannot traverse willingly but travel on regardless. What does a human being look like if their direction in time is stretched out and entirely on display? What do our thoughts look like in quantum mechanics and realms lower than the atomic level? How does our energy signature interact with all of these fields and influence them, when we ourselves are at minimum, scientifically proven to be affected by fields outside our body?
To me, marriage is a question of the soul and a binding contract to another soul that surpercedes everything in existence. If the theory of eternal return is relevant, then in the next universe, I’d want to be with the person whom I married the first time around.
“Most of my family members who have been married, have been married multiple times. I have almost got married once, and also proposed another time, but it’s not something I particularly want, and I would be far happier with a commitment ceremony or something than all the legal wrangling of a marriage.”
I can see why some people want marriage, for various reasons. I have never come close to getting married, and never had a strong desire to be married. I think the main thing at this point might be the legal aspects; things like access in hospital, maybe things like medical benefits and retirement stuff, and whatever else on the legal side works better if you have that marriage certificate.
Here’s the story of a lovely lady, who was bringing up three very lovely girls. All of them had hair of gold, like their mother, the youngest one in curls. Here’s the store, of a man named Brady, who was busy with three boys of his own. They were four men, living all together, yet they were all alone.
Til the one day when the lady met this fellow. And they knew it was much more than a hunch, that this group would somehow form a family. That’s the way we all became the Brady Bunch, the Brady Bunch. That’s the way we all became the Brady Bunch. The Brady Bunch!
Who can turn the world on with her smile? Who can take a nothing day, and suddenly make it all seem worthwhile? Well it’s you girl, and you should know it. With each glance and every little movement you show it. Love is all around, no need to waste it. You can have a town, why don’t you take it. You’re gonna make it after all. You’re gonna make it after all.
In time of ancient gods, warlords and kings, a land in turmoil cried out for a hero. She was Xena, a mighty princess forged in the heat of battle. The power. The passion. The danger. Her courage will change the world.
Being evil has a price. I hear a lot of little secrets. Tell me yours, and I’ll keep it. You oughta know my name by now, better think twice. Being evil has a price. I’ve got a nasty reputation. Not a bit of hesitation, you better think twice. ‘Cause being evil has a price.
You can see that this might affect straight relationships. You don’t have to agree on everything, but I’m not sure how long even the most powerful attraction could make you overlook your partner thinking feminism had “gone too far”. I wouldn’t put out for anyone who didn’t support my reproductive autonomy – and abortion is among the most divisive issues for young people, according to a pre-election Gallup poll.
Then there is dating. A “total nightmare” for women was the Cut’s verdict last summer: transactional, adversarial, even frightening, with readers chiming in with horror stories of everything from flakiness to felony. Simultaneously, the #boysober hashtag emerged, whereby young women vowed to quit apps, dates and hook-ups; part political statement, part self-preservation.
No one enjoys apps anyway: 78% of respondents in a recent Forbes survey felt “emotionally, mentally or physically exhausted” by them at least some of the time; 23% of gen Z answered “always”.
